By Gilda McKechnie, Wedding Celebrant

Trends in wedding ceremonies have changed a lot in recent years.

Once-upon-a-time you only had a church wedding, or, if you got past your parents, you exchanged vows in the town’s public gardens. There may have been the odd elopement, too.

Lately, I’ve seen an increase in civil marriage ceremonies and couples seem to prefer more intimate weddings in the Grampians Pyrenees…on a mountain top, in a country chapel, private home, under the stars in a marquee or a good old shearing shed.

Maybe it comes down to dollars and the couples wanting to keep things simple and stress-free for themselves and their guests. Or, maybe weddings are humbly taking the route of being more ‘relaxed and meaningful’ without all the materialistic bells and whistles.

In other words, your ceremony (and reception) are only limited by your imagination these days, but, as a celebrant who has been involved with a wide variety of unique and wonderful weddings in this beautiful part of Australia, I’d still urge you to consider these key points:

1.     Find your happy place

Think about what’s vital to you as a couple, because doing ‘your own thing’ is more important than what third parties want. Choose a venue that’s close to your heart and style it in a way that reflects your personalities. Make a space that you’re genuinely happy to be in. The Grampians Pyrenees is perfect for lovers of nature, food and wine.


Photo: Kerri Kingston Photography

2.     Work on the right words

When it comes to your official wedding ceremony and the exchange of vows, your celebrant will be only too happy to help you craft the words you want to say. A good celebrant will embrace your story and create a personal, warm and witty backstory.

3.     Don’t waste time

More couples are getting married in venues that cater for the ceremony, reception and has accommodation available. This makes more time with friends and family…even breakfast the next day if you want! There are also more weekday weddings. And why not? It’s a chance to use up some leave.

4.     Run away (…just for a bit)

Elopements are also trending for couples who want an intimate, highly personal ceremony in places like Halls Gap without the extravagant expense. Quite often, couples will host a party at a later date to celebrate informally with close family and friends.

Likewise, surprise weddings haven’t lost their punch, with sneaky couples inviting loved ones to celebrate a birthday, engagement or other significant milestone and then surprising their guests with a wedding ceremony, or announcing that they’d been married earlier in the day. The element of surprise certainly heightens the happy emotions of the day and, as a celebrant, I love being part of these exciting reveals!


Steam Punk: Linda and Darren Raeck got married on their Grampians property in Steam Punk style, thrilling their wedding guests and inspiring unique photos of the day. They also involved their much loved dogs.

5.     Be brave, choose a theme

Themed weddings are on the rise and really set a different atmosphere to traditional wedding formats. From pop culture themes to nostalgia filled affairs, offbeat weddings are fabulous fun! From arriving to your rustic country wedding on the back of a tractor or ute, to a full-throttle steam punk theme, with some smart planning and heads up for your guests, you can create a real day to remember!

6.     Make a statement

I am inclined to integrate views on same-sex marriage into the ceremony if the couple want that. Legally, a celebrant needs to state that marriage is between a man and a woman, but it doesn’t mean that they can’t follow that statement up with a disclaimer that you believe it should be for everyone as it should be an equal right in Australia.

7.     Embrace the moment

Often, before we start proceedings, I’m asked to request that wedding guests put away their cameras during the ceremony so everyone can relax and enjoy the wedding. Then, after the big day, guests are generally privy to an online account containing the professional photos. Some couples also request that mobile phones are not present at the ceremony. So everyone has the heads up about your wishes, you can subtly mention something on the invitation, or set up a cute sign like this.

8.     It’s not weird to involve your dog

There have been a number of times when the couple has wanted a pet involved in their ceremony, particularly their dogs.  I’ve witnessed dogs as the ring bearers, part of the wedding party, leading in the bridesmaids and bride – or standing with the best man. I’m pleased to report that there have been no issues so far!


9.     Commit to the planet, too.

There is a bigger focus on eco-friendly and sustainable weddings. Couples are choosing goods that are more environmentally friendly, like natural materials, second-hand or upcycled items, flowers from friends’ gardens or native flowers that are in with the Grampians area. With Instagram, Pinterest and other online styling resources available, you don’t have to be creative whizzes to pull off a green wedding. Just look for inspiration, ask around for ideas and make the local op shop your favourite hang-out!

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10. Have fun!

There’s so much lead up and planning to a wedding that more couples are choosing to extend their time with family and friends pre and/or post wedding day so everyone can chill out and reconnect. Activities in our part of Victoria can include wine tours, barbecues, rock-climbing and bushwalking. It’s a great idea for travelling guests to really get the most out of their time away to celebrate your wedding.

It will be interesting to see the roll out of future trends as couples become more adventurous in the planning for their wedding. But, bear in mind that trends come and go, so plan a day that you can look upon fondly forever.

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Photo: Sunday Love Photography

By Luke Bourchier

There is so much amazing music around at the moment.  This makes it almost impossible to choose songs for your wedding day.  As long as it has a smattering of gooey love-y dove-y lyrics, you should be right.  Right?

Or, you know, you could choose songs you actually like; songs that mean something to you and your partner.  There are a lot of great love songs out there and some, it seems, have even been written with weddings in mind (Train – ‘Marry You’, The McClymonts – Forever Begins Tonight etc).  There’s also a lot of great songs with strong messages which aren’t quite as gooey, if that’s not your cup of tea.

Playing at a lot of wedding ceremonies and receptions, I’ve come across some incredible tunes.  Here’s the top 10 songs to consider for your 2016/17 wedding:

10) Have I Told You Lately, Van Morrison

This has been played at weddings for over 25 years and for good reason.  It’s still romantic and, despite having lost its shine a little, in the hands of the right artist, it can sound brand new again.

9) Five Years Time, Noah and the Whale

For something quirky, a little bit cheeky and a whole lotta fun, check out Noah and the Whale.  This optimistic song is all about the future.

8) In Your Arms, Nico & Vinz

Relatively recent, Nico & Vinz touch on some challenges that we all face, but then it’s all okay “when I lie down in your arms”.

7) Thinking Out Loud, Ed Sheeran

This has probably been the number one song in recent years and rightly so.  It’s jam-packed full of dreamy lyrics, the film clip looks like a bridal waltz and well, it’s Ed.  Need I say more?  Still worthy of being in the top 10, due to its ridiculous popularity, it has probably slid down the list a little.

6) Fly Me To The Moon, Frank Sinatra

This sweet little ditty was recorded by Frank Sinatra over 50 years ago.  “You are all I long for, all I worship and adore”.  Pure romance!

5) I Won’t Give Up, Jason Mraz

This is gooey love song at its best.  I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve performed this one at weddings.  As the only song on the list with 6/8 timing (technical music talk), I really wanted this to be higher on the list.  This song is gorgeous.

4) This Old Love, Lior

Here’s one from left-field, but it’s perfect for a wedding ceremony.  It certainly has a mysterious feel, but the melody is beautiful, as is the message.  Check it out.

3) Home, Philip Phillips

Perfect for a recessional (as you leave the ceremony), or a bridal waltz, ‘Home’ is not your standard cliché love song, but it’s very fun, with delicious harmonies all throughout.

2) Real Love, John Lennon / Regina Spektor

As one of the greatest songwriters of all time, John Lennon is right on the mark with this song.  The Regina Spektor version is particularly beautiful in all its subtlety.

1) The Luckiest, Ben Folds

Well, here it is.  This has quickly become my favourite song to perform at a wedding.  Well, to perform anywhere for that matter.  The lyrics aren’t like a pop song, with lines feeling unfinished, having unusual content, but it’s a song about growing old together in love.  This is the one you’ve been looking for.

Special Mention: The Way You Make Me Feel

MJ’s hit is a fun bridal waltz, if you’re not really into slow dancing.  Worth thinking about!

So there we have it. Ten great songs to consider having somewhere on your wedding day.  Some of these songs are more particularly suited to the wedding ceremony, but really could be played anywhere throughout your day. 

Have a listen, and you decide. If you’re still struggling to choose, get in touch.  In the end, like I said, there’s so much great music out there – it’s about choosing what is right for you.

To book Luke for your wedding, follow the link to Luke Bourchier.

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Gift ideas for the couple that has everything

“A charity donation, or be creative and make them something.” – Donna Young, Dojo Design, Geelong.

Ararat wedding and events planner Danielle Ryan from Events to Remember reveals her top tips for planning your wedding day:

1. Make a list of what is important to you and your fiance and use this to guide your decision making. Some couples feel that fine food is a priority, whereas others prefer to place emphasis on entertainment.

2.Set a budget and STICK to it. Invest wisely by hiring professionals for the things most important to you (eg photos) and DIY the smaller details (eg invitations).

3. Learn to say “no” (politely). Whether it’s a relative insisting you wear their multi-layered taffeta wedding dress from the 80s, your mum insisting that those seven great aunts who you’ve never met must be on the invite list, or a supplier trying to upsell you something you don’t really need; sometimes you need to politely, but firmly say “no”. While the advice and assistance of others can be valuable, it is important not to be pushed into something you aren’t happy with.

“Don’t look around too much (for products and services). Sometimes too many choices make it really difficult. Go with your gut and once it is booked just enjoy what you picked. Whatever you do, don’t second guess yourself!” Shae Outtram, Tarrington.